Girl to Girl:
Unsolicited advice.
There’s a trend on Twitter (who calls it X?) where people get to advise others.
As much as I don’t fancy unsolicited advice, it’s nice to listen to people advise others out of the pain they’ve either witnessed or been through themselves. It’s a form of empathy, silently grieving your pain but willing enough to pour into the painless cup of others.
So here’s my own girl-to-girl advice:
Actions show you who people are, words show you who they want to be. I learned a little bit later in life that people judge and characterize me, not by what I say, but by what I do.
Let peoples’ actions guide yours. If you have a partner or a friend whom you desire to be a significant person in your life, but the person’s actions consistently show that they do not desire the same, let the person’s actions guide yours. To break it down, when you’re not your best friend’s best friend, walk away.
Stay with Jesus. Life is a lot, both the seen and the unseen. Jesus has already done it all, took away your sins, forgave you, and gave you a new life. He offered us grace on a platter of gold, stay with Jesus. He only is the way, the truth, and the life.
If you ever find yourself stooping so low as to beg someone to stay with you, to love you, walk away. Girl, you are so precious. Just keep working on yourself, the right people who would love you effortlessly will come.
Don’t let anybody make you feel small about the little things you enjoy. Enjoy the perky little things you like, and let nobody make you feel small about it. I enjoy watching animations or cartoons, to be more direct. I’ve been asked a few times, “How old are you? Why are you watching this?”. If you enjoy it, it doesn’t have to make sense to people.
and lastly, the famous…
If he wanted to, he would. Guys are determined and know what they want, contrary to popular opinion. If he wanted to meet up with you after you two met at a party, he’d give you a call. If he wanted to get to know you, he’d bridge the gap. If he wanted you to be his girlfriend, he’d ask. If he wanted to, he would, so please stop exerting your mental energy trying to read hypothetical actions from him.
That’s a few of what I’ve got, but I must go now.
Till next time,
Love and light.
Here’s to 30 days of writing without restraint.
Day 21/30
